I know some people worry that the amount of kids they have will affect what their marriage is like. In many ways I have found that quite the opposite is true for us. Watching Jo teach Milo how to swim, or hearing him whisper what communion means to Braydon in church, or seeing Luca climb into his lap when he's hurt: all these things make me love him so much more. We love and nurture together, we see what God has given us as a responsibility and go after it together. Jo's desire to adopt makes me love him more too. His open heart that is ready to serve and love, putting others before himself, is beautiful.
Each thing we have to work through only brings us closer together. Adoption will bring us closer together as well. Working through something with someone is so much sweeter and so much easier than doing it alone. I recently hit a car and had a pretty terrible day. The kids had kept me up the night before and the day kind of crumbled on itself. Once I saw Jo things got easier. I was talking to a friend about it the day after and she said, "that's because once you told him, you shared it. It wasn't just your hardship anymore". She hit the nail on the head. Once I shared my mistake it instantly became ours. This is one of the truest blessings of marriage. It's also how I know we can do whatever God calls us to do. Yes, we're going to have those days where we don't see eye to eye or we have to apologize to each other a few times. We are certainly not perfect but at the end of the day we have each others backs. We pray for each other, we care for each other, and as our family grows, so does the love.